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 Freedom Writers (2007)
IMDB rating: 7.40
Plot: A young teacher (Swank) inspires her class of at-risk students to learn tolerance, apply themselves, and pursue education beyond high school.
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buy and download Freedom Writers
Directors: LaGravenese Richard
Actors: Dempsey Patrick,Glenn Scott,Mario,Montalvo Sergio,Finn Jason,Wyatt Deance,Chavarria Gabriel,Parrish Hunter,Garcia Antonio,Drama,
My fiance is perfect. But I can't stand him
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I spent 10 months with a total jerk – he cheated on me the entire time with men and women, even prostitutes. I got checked out when I found out and was clean, thank goodness, and moved on. Much too quickly, I think, a new guy can into my life. He is absolutely the sweetest, most loving, generous, good-natured, and well-meaning person I have ever met. He knows about my past relationship and about most aspects of my life unlike anyone else and still accepts me. He proposed to me within about 4 days and I more or less said "someday." We didn’t really date. He started sleeping over and it’s like he never left. We, for some crazy reason, went and put our bank accounts together (just shoot me) and then my apartment burned down and I was forced to move in with him for several weeks. When the repairs were over, I told him I needed space and wanted to move back into my apartment. I asked that we have a more normal "dating" relationship, and act more like the 20/21 year olds that we are. He agreed but when I moved, he followed me back into my apartment and has never left.
I have a lot of anxiety problems. I have NEVER had commitment issues before (rather, I’ve always been too devoted) but I feel VERY scared of committing now. I feel like I cannot walk away because I have no money on my own anymore. Before I met him I had several thousand dollars in my bank account and $0 credit card debt. Now I have no money at all and $2500 credit card debt. He crashed my car a few months ago and then bought himself a new one. If I walked away, I’d have to take my unreliable car that sometimes won’t turn on. Before I met him, it was a cute, sturdy, reliable vehicle. Now it looks like hell and hardly passes inspection. He had to have a friend do the inspection to pass it.
I know I make it sound bad, but this guy’s personality is very sweet. He doesn’t mean to be clingy but he is. He always wants to have some physical contact, his hand on me, or holding me too tight in bed. When he can’t touch me, he stares at me. It’s as if he’s obsessed with me. He is about to get deployed to Iraq and now I feel that I can’t possibly give him back the ring, tell him I want to break up, because it would devastate him before he leaves. It even seems like too convenient of a time to break up when in reality it’s making it more difficult for me. Compound on that that his birthday is in 2 weeks and then Valentine’s Day.
I just can’t take it anymore. If he wasn’t clingy and he didn’t have a stupid, goofy, irritating sense of humor, I would be completely comfortable with him, but he just doesn’t give me ANY space and his goofiness and childish behavior really gets under my skin. On the flip side, I feel a selfish urge to get over it and stay because I know he will support me and let me be a writer and a mother later on.
What should I DO?! I’m only 21 (today’s my birthday!) and I’m so not ready to get married and settle down and be a housewife. I haven’t finished school or anything! I saw myself having a much different future than this. How can I treat him right with the dignity that he deserves and still regain the independence and freedom I need?
tell him. tell him you dont wanna get married right now. you dont wanna look that far into the future yet.
tel him you just wanna date. dont completely break up wtih him. just tell him you need space. tell him to stay at a buddies house for a while or his own house. say that youjust need YOU time. not you AND HIM time. as a woman dont depend on a guy to support you. make it in life on your own. youll find a guy eventually that can be just like or almost like wwhat you want. itll just take time. if you cant do any of that stay with him til you can afford a different better crappy car so you can then tell him you need space so you can get around. you are your own person. gotta learn how to be independent and still love someone. hope i helped. (:
charli neep | Jan 27, 2010
What should I DO?! I’m only 21 (today’s my birthday!) and I’m so not ready to get married and settle down and be a housewife. I haven’t finished school or anything! I saw myself having a much different future than this. How can I treat him right with the dignity that he deserves and still regain the independence and freedom I need?
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Birthday’s is just another day in life.. Understand that right now. And as for your current situation – what you need to do honestly is 1. Talk to him about needing the space that you want. This is your life we are talking about here.. And your only 21 eh? You should be the woman in college right now partying it up and drinking it down one day at a time until you get out on your own and take care of yourself. I am only 19 years of age and I truly know what love is because I have had it before.. And honestly you do not have that here. A person can indeed be the sweetest person on the planet true. But it takes (2) to tango.. And right now.. You let this kid screw your life over without realizing it. You are going to either make or break his heart but on the flip side it will deal yourself a significant blow in a good or bad way depending on breaking up with him.. or letting him live with you.
And in all honesty you need to end this for your own sake. But before you do that.. You need to get yourself back on track before you even kick him out/leave him. In other words – You "never" take care of someone else until you KNOW you can take care of your own self.. And Not that person caring for you. I understand your situation.. but there are other people in this world that are in a worst position then you at the very moment. Get your self on track then let him go… You need to get an education and get your self a job.. and your own "house" not an apartment. Besides.. your 21.. You have 60 years of life to go. So what the hell are you doing making such an early move like this in your life for? Someone will get hurt after the decision that you make.. It will be either you still hurting.. or it will be your man that will be hurting but then again.. its for your own good. Good luck.. And if anything here sounds too confusing for you.. Feel free to email me and ill be glad to elaborate on what ever part you mis understand.
Ethereal | Jan 27, 2010
You are in a tight situation, but honesty is the best policy. It’s good that you’re trying to be nice about it though

It sucks that he is leaving, but you have to make it very clear that you need a break. Just give him back the ring and say that: "I need a break. I need to be alone for a while." If you marry him you WILL be unhappy for the rest of your life, and delaying it will only make it worse. Also, there’s something a little creepy about his clinginess, his urge to join accounts, and the fact that he crashed your car. He used up your money! Sirens should be going off.
You already know that you’re just staying with him because you need the support. You need to go out there and find yourself a job. This is a bad economy, so if you have to, settle for less. YOU need to create your life and right now you are taking the easy way out. (I’m sorry if that’s too blunt.) You are unhappy right now. You already feel as if your future is being taken away. You just need to say that. "I want to have this relationship in another part of my life," or, "I can’t take this type of commitment right now." Finish school, figure out what you want to do.
I know it’s hard. Let him off gently. Talk to some other friends for help. You can do it. 
GalaxyGirl | Jan 27, 2010
happy birthday, Jackie
I wish I could offer something as well-thought out as what you wrote here. If this post gets buried too fast, you may want to place on one of the forums on www.dailystrength.org. Like Yahoo, I think there are specific areas for military families/leave issues.
Just a few thoughts: "I saw myself having a much different future than this…" >>> There are some people, who through arguably no fault of their own, just seem to attract drama and disorder. Your fiance seems to be one. I have lived with one for the last three years…it never really gets better, and no matter how much you try to impart basic life skills to advance yourselves to that next level, they always drop you back down in a month, six months, a year. One thing or another. You sound like a really great person with your heart in the right place. As an outsider, I would say you need to sever some ties – lie to him if you have to, but make sure you do what needs to be done. It’s pretty mercenary…shiitty…whatever you want to call it. Place his stuff into storage, have his mail forwarded to PO box or a relative, and move out. Leave him a note telling him you weren’t ready, and that you hope he meets someone who fills all his dreams someday.
I think there is some compassion in that.
lesscaffeine | Jan 27, 2010